Nadir Mothojakan

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Healing the "Hidden" Losses: Compassionate Support for Disenfranchised Grief

Are you carrying a grief that the world does not seem to see?

Whether you are navigating the fog of a recent loss or feeling the quiet isolation of a long-term health condition, you do not have to carry this alone. With over 30 years of experience in mental health, I provide a safe, non-judgmental space where your experience is heard, validated, and deeply respected.

Specialising in Disenfranchised & "Hidden" Loss

I specialise in supporting those facing grief that society often ignores, trivialises, or fails to acknowledge. When your right to mourn is not socially recognised, the isolation can be as painful as the loss itself. I work with individuals navigating:

• Perinatal Loss: Miscarriage, stillbirth, or elective abortion.

• Pet Loss: Grieving a companion animal often dismissed as "just a pet."

• Non-Death Loss: Divorce, family estrangement, or the loss of identity due to chronic illness.

• Stigmatised Deaths: Loss due to suicide, addiction, or the incarceration of a loved one.

• Hidden Relationships: Grieving an ex-partner, a "non-blood" connection, or an extramarital lover.

My Therapeutic Approach

Resilience is not about "getting over" a loss; it is about learning to live a meaningful life alongside it. We will work as partners to help you regain a sense of control and agency. Our work together may include:

• Validation & Naming: Moving past shame to acknowledge your grief as real and significant.

• Creating Rituals: Developing personal ways to mourn when traditional ceremonies feel unavailable or inappropriate.

• Narrative Therapy: Helping you weave overwhelming emotions into a coherent, manageable story.

• Practical Support: Providing tools for executive dysfunction and navigating your "new normal."

Professional Background & Qualifications

I am an Accredited Member of the BACP with specialised training in Trauma-Informed Practice, Childhood Abandonment, and Bereavement Support (Cruse). My academic research has focused deeply on the mechanics of "hidden" grief and community care:

• MA in Counselling (Merit), Goldsmiths College: Research focused on the therapeutic process of Disenfranchised Grief.

• MSc in Health Psychology, City University: Research on the role of carers within the South Asian community.

• MSc in Psychology, Open University. Research on the impacts of personal loss among drug Addictions.

Outside of the therapy room, I stay grounded by volunteering at local soup kitchens, where I am constantly inspired by the diversity and resilience of the human spirit

You are most welcome to book a free complimentary session of 30 minutes to check if we are the right fit for the therapy. Thank you.